Weddings are expensive – most couples are paying the bill and going into debt, so couples face tough decisions about the guest list. Wedding guests either don’t understand wedding invitation etiquette, or worse yet, they don’t care and completely ignore it. Let’s clear things up about the “Plus One.”
Formal Paper Invitation – save the envelope, it has all the answers! If the wedding invitation envelope is addressed to you and a Guest, that is a a “Plus One” invitation, which means that you are invited and you may bring a Guest. If the envelope is addressed in your name only, you are the only person invited. This is not a mistake, couples can’t afford and don’t want to share their wedding day with people they don’t know, just so you won’t be lonely, and have a dance partner.
Don’t Add Your Own “Plus One – don’t write your partner’s name on the RSVP card, the number “2,” or “Plus One.” The couple may not call you out on this, but they’ll be pissed. If you are bold enough to do this, your “Plus One” better show up, behave, and YOU better send a nice gift.
Don’t Be Passive Aggressive – by stalling and not responding, you did not get a “Plus One” invite. The couple will call, ask you if you are coming, don’t beg and ask to bring a “Plus One,” it’s bad form, be happy you made the cut, and show up. Actually engaged, and the couple didn’t know, that may be an oversight, that you could mention.
Electronic Invites – trends are changing, you may not receive a formal paper invitation, read the e-vite carefully, don’t assume because it’s an electronic invite that the wedding is casual and you can bring a “Plus One” – unless the invitation clearly says so.